Iceland

Saturday, May 18, 2013


I would be an ass to suppose that I could sum-up Iceland in the first line of a blog post. I know, because I just tried for the last fifteen minutes, and each attempt made me mutter: that makes me sound like an ass. Even if I had stayed for a very long time, I could not do such a thing, I'm sure. Having stopped over for a one-day trip a few years ago, and a two-day trip this time around, I surely cannot do such a thing. I can say this: I am struck by two ideas: First, it is a country that seems to have a very clean genealogical line. Perhaps this clean sweep down through the generations can be seen reflected in the buildings -- the old dwellings were about function, and yet still had a form that was aesthetically striking. A thousand-plus years later, the same can still be said. Second, it is a land of diverse natural beauties. 

But before I jump into any more sophomoric/surface statements about an entire country, we should go back to the beginning... 


While I can't complain about the actual flight (i.e. mechanics of the plane, turbulence, etc. -- all fine -- we didn't crash for goodness sake, and that's all it really comes down to), I will say that sleep did not come easy for anybody, and it didn't come at all for me. I've never been so unable to get comfortable in my life. We took off at 8:40pm New York-time, and landed around 6am Iceland-time. And we hit the ground running... 


All around Iceland people stack rocks. Cairns. Some people posit that it is a sacred art, others say it is a tradition to wish people well -- something started by the Viking culture of coming and going. When driving from the international airport towards Reykjavik there are some that, at first glance, look like people standing on the hill (for those of us sleep-deprived they were winking and waving). With 300,000 people in the entire country (2/3 of which live in or around Reykjavik), perhaps it doesn't hurt to pile up a few extra citizens. The effect that they had on me was to immediately bring a feeling of place where people so identify with their land and culture that ancestors would naturally want to hang around... stand on the hill and watch how things unfold.  

We stopped for some cash -- which is quite pretty.


And some pastries and Skyr -- the famous Icelandic yogurt -- we got the drinkable kind because we had an agenda... Like marathon runners we just threw the yogurt in our faces as we ran past. (You think I'm kidding, but wait until you finish reading this post... in about two hours...). 


Our first stop was a waterfall (a "foss") called Seljalandfoss. You can actually walk on a trail all the way behind it, and there's a legend that there's a treasure back there. We are thin-skinned and weak, and I didn't pack enough extra shoes in anticipation of all the mud that was piled up behind there, so we walked up the stairs until our already shivering selves got rather wet, and then came back down to the sun. The Dad did walk the entire loop. He didn't find the treasure. 



And then we stopped at another: Skogafoss. No option to walk behind this one. Which is nice to not have to decide whether you're the awesome adventurous type or the ever-impressive I'll-stand-here-and-enjoy-it type. 




We then had a rendezvous with The Boy's future -- his Icelandic 80+-year old self. There is an amazing museum called the Skogar Folk Museum that was established in the 40's. The man who started it all happened to be there and he was very happy to walk around with us and show us some of the pieces (The Girl sniffed in great dissatisfaction when he showed us an old-fashioned, and rather gruesome spirt-of-the-French-revolution-like mouse trap). He said that he started collecting items when he was 15-years old (The Boy leaned over to me and whispered, "I'm way ahead of that..."). According to some of the literature, it sounds like at some point, when the idea for the museum was coming about there was a "drive" for items that showed the history of Iceland, and boy, oh boy, are there some amazing things... 


Fishing boat -- of the variety that was launched into the waves and then beached.


Shoes made out of fish skin. There were also "ice skates" that were pieces of bone that would be attached to the bottom of boots. 


Viking axe blades.


Wrestling champion pictures.


Taxidermy of a lamb with two faces... And it goes on, and on. It is a building full of goodness. I could have spent a lot of time there, and sincerely wished that I wasn't in a floating haze of fatigue. 

Outside there are buildings that also show Icelandic culture. There is a school that had a series of pictures on the wall that I knew must have some sort of moralistic message. Upon inspection I saw that I was correct, and so called the children over for a lesson (they are in school, after all).



In the first picture he was a sweet boy, but by this second one, he was looking bored, smug, and stand-offish during the scripture-reading...


In the third one he is enjoying the drink, and by this fourth one we see him stumbling home to his wife and children, unable to even make it through the door without losing his balance. The mom is distraught, the poor children can only look at the ground, too ashamed to look at their pathetic drunkard of a father. 


See what happens? Now, that's a school lesson. 

In addition to the school there are also turf-roofed hobbit houses that can be walked through.








As well as relocated/refurbished examples of other homes, like the first wooden house (there is not a whole lot of timber on the island, so the wood used was from driftwood... which was a much-desired luxury). 


There were even tiny little houses built into the land. When we asked our friend who started it all what the houses were for, he said that they were for children, and the bones were used as toys. I said under my breath to The Sister, "Kids, the cow has died -- Christmas has come early." The Girl overhead me and got super pissed. 


As a special treat, our museum-collector of many talents took us to the chapel (it is a compilation from many old churches -- the piece of altar art is from the 1700's, etc.) and he played a hymn on the old organ. It was impressive. 


Aside from the incredible overview of Icelandic history that the museum provides, it also provided us something more personal: it showed The Boy that his dream (that he speaks of daily) to someday open a museum full of art, history, and oddities is absolutely possible. 

When I told The Dad that the little huts with the turf roofs are hobbit homes he said that Tokien, and Lewis were intrigued by Iceland, and would discuss the sagas. That William Morris felt a great compulsion to visit Iceland. Great people have been impressed and influenced by this land. I always wonder as we expose the children to things whether or not it's extravagant. I wonder what it is they can be getting and if it is bigger than other good things that we could be doing with the resources. On the flight over I watched the episode of Arrested Development when George Sr. has his spiritual moment while in solitary confinement, and comes out with a part of his shoe on his head as a makeshift yamulke -- to remind him that there is something greater above him. Driving along that idea came to me -- as ridiculous as it sounds to be getting confirmation via Arrested Development. I thought, if nothing else, hopefully seeing such incredible things will cement an innate understanding that there is something greater above them. And I think that can inspire them to be greater than they would have been otherwise. 

On to Jokulsarlon Glacial Lagoon. For this we drove out five hours from our starting point. We were to take a boat ride through the chunks of aqua-colored ice. It started pouring rain on the way there, and we wondered if that would alter anything. When we got there, and went into the little structure where they sell hot cocoa and waffles (we, of course, partook) we found out that the captain had to cancel all boat rides, not because of the rain, but because the ice was too packed. As we sat there at our table, eating our waffles in exhausted silence, an older lady from the tour group that was packed in there with us came up to our table. She chatted with us for a while and told us that they had come from Norway, and this boat trip was one of the highlights of the tour, so they were pretty disappointed. She asked the children if they were disappointed, and when they said that they were (I think more because she suggested it, than because they were really that upset) she told them that they were young and would have plenty of opportunities to come back and try for it again. As she put her scarf on she said, "I can't say the same for myself." And then wished us well and went off toward her bus with the other bummed out elderly Norwegians. 

We did enjoy walking around down by the water. We saw some eiders, and a seal who poked his head out a few times. We talked about how the landscape reminded us of Chasing Ice. The Boy created a cairn. 






We then backtracked for about three hours, stopping briefly at Vatnajokulspjodgardur National Park. 

And trying Icelandic candy bars. We are totally into stopping by grocery stores/convenience stores and trying local packaged/processed foods. The green one is a chocolate bar with m&m-like candies inside, the yellow is a chocolate bar with a strip of black licorice piggy-backing, and the blue is like a Krackle, but with a sweeter, more fruity chocolate. 



After dinner we stopped by Dyrholaey to see the black sand and rock formations.


And then arrived back to where we needed to be: Skalakot farm.


Our destinies were entwined with some Icelandic ponies. The Girl's was the white one, and her name was Honey. 



After riding -- and seeing the sheep (apparently every sheep has twins) there were hundreds, and each one sweet and silly and worthy of all the adoration that The Girl's heart created for them -- we went to our little cabin that we rented there on the farm, and made our beds and finally crashed somewhere around 11pm. It was still light outside. 

Day 2


After slowing to let The Girl take a million pictures of the lambs, we stopped at a grocery store for some breakfast items, snacks, and a comic book. Hint: don't get those chocolate banana candies. 


On to Gulfoss. Waterfalls that rival those in Niagra. A nice little walk. The Boy wore the hat that he knit, and it was all stretched out because of the rain, so we decided that he looked like Professor Quirrell when Voldemort as a crazed naked snake-creature is living in his wonky turban. The Boy didn't love that and made the request that if we had to call him anything because of the largeness of the hat, that he would prefer it be Bob Ross. 



We were making our stops along the Gold Circle, and our next one was Geysir. We waited for one of the eruptions, and did see it, but it went so fast that it was finished by the time any of our cameras engaged. 


Across from the steaming pools was this enormous elf. There is a quote that plays on the Iceland Air TV screens that essentially says that while 30% of Icelanders have a college degree, about 50% believe in elves. An interesting statistical pairing -- one that kind of bugs me. Seems snotty for some reason. The last time we were here we were taking a taxi and while The Dad was chatting with the driver about music, etc. I decided to ask him about this statistic.

"I read that a large part of the population believe in elves."
"Yes, they live in the rocks."
"Okay, then."
"My grandmother heard them. She never lied."
"Okay, then."

In my estimation, if having a college degree trumps what your grandma told you... well then, you might as well become a smug arse who wears Buddy Holly glasses, skinny jeans, plaid shirts, and comes up with PR stuff for airlines. 


I mentioned how there seems to be a clean line from the first Icelandic settlers to current Icelanders. The first came from Norway -- a settlement happened in the 800's. Some came from Britain as well. And there doesn't seem to be that much coming or going since. 

Our next stop was PIngvellir. Home of the Mid-Atlantic Ridge (getting wider every year), and the first parliament (some say the first in the world, others say one of the first). It felt pretty amazing to stand there and consider what history had happened in that very spot. Not just the chieftains coming and negotiating law (and sometimes drowning those that were found guilty in the pool not too far down below), but having been to the museum the day before and reflecting on those houses, and that school, and that church and thinking: my goodness, these people were staring at the same few faces all the time. To consider that once a year there would be an event around Midsummer's even when just about everybody from the four corners of the country would gather together... well that must have been quite a party. My guess is that there were an awful lot of teenage girls who waited all year to go to where we were walking today. 

Because this area is so important to the people of Iceland, and their sense of fair government, it's here where they had the ceremony when Iceland finally broke from Denmark in 1944. 









A woman I know who is brilliant once said that a book that most influenced her was Independent People by Halldor Laxness. I came home from talking to her very excited to read it, but never did... But The Dad did, and loved it, and went on to read other books written by Laxness. So we stopped by his house, and while The Sister waited in the car with the spawn, The Dad and I ran in and did the 25-minute audio tour. The house is incredible for its ability to combine elegance with awesome. Pretty much every wall upstairs is lined with books. There was a part of the audio tour that I loved, it said that stepping in to Laxness's study you can smell the books -- a singular smell that incites curiosity. That, my friends, is why we cannot let e-readers completely take over. Let them have their place (i.e. keeping college students from becoming stooped 45-degrees), but by all means, if we want our kids to be readers -- the kind that want to absorb books -- we should not rob them of the subtle power of the sensory experience. 


It was time to start drawing in our circle, so we headed to Reykjavik. The first thing we did was go through the Einar Jonsson Museum. All things Einar Jonsson were cool, but there was an overlay exhibit going on with more avant-garde pieces (i.e. a woman in tights underneath a huge piece of shimmering spandex, and as we walked by she would raise and lower her arms) that were a bit... distracting. The thing that is so interesting about the museum was that Jonsson donated his collection to Iceland, with the stipulation that a museum be built. After a few years it was agreed, and so the first art museum in Iceland was opened -- complete with a penthouse apartment upstairs where Jonsson and his wife lived. I told The Girl to get cracking with her pottery -- it could get her a penthouse someday if she plays her cards right. 






We then found a cute place for dinner. We walked up some narrow steps to get to it, ordered some paninis and sat amongst some endearing kitsch. Not the least of which, was an enormous poster of home. 


Home. We've all commented on how home seems so long ago. Like our apartment has almost vanished from our history. 

Before turning in to our hotel here next to the airport we of course had one last stop: The Blue Lagoon. 



We enjoyed our blue slushies (the plastic cups had "KRAP" written across the front -- which of course highly amused the kids), we put mud on our faces (The Boy got over-zealous and we almost had an emergency eye-flush added to the agenda), we froze (it was mighty cold and windy on the parts exposed), we liked paddling through the steam rolling on top of the aqua water as we searched for "hot pockets," and four out of the five of us made a point to not be seen naked in the locker rooms. It was really fun. 


After trying the last of our Icelandic candy bars, we turned in for the night. Well, four out of the five of us did... I've been writing this post. I know that the rest of the trip is going to be just as fast-paced, so I want to slap down what I can when I can. Even if it means that I'm only going to get about two hours of sleep tonight, I wanted to be sure to try to capture this: Iceland is magical. I did not hear elves speaking, but I did have a surreal experience of slipping in and out of sleep as we drove those five hours out to the glacier lake. I have a filtered slideshow -- light-infused snapshots of what I saw out of my window:






Volcanoes, and the aftermath; the ocean, and the snakes of water leading to it; lakes; waterfalls; farmland. Like a dream where I landed on the moon and then the next moment I was feeling the mist of a waterfall. When you wake up you cannot explain the logic of a dream, but while dreaming you naturally take everything for what it is. That is the complexity of Iceland. Their ancestry might be a straight line, but their landscape is a dreamscape. 


Today's Numbers

Thursday, May 16, 2013

1 Hermit crab passed off to amazing family friend
1 Goldfish named Soupy (should be named Survivor) passed off to same amazing family friend (who carried said pets across approximately 1/5 the width of Manhattan)
1 Key given to upstairs friend who so nicely agreed to feed fish in tank
1 Clean apartment (against all odds -- this morning it looked like the apartment of mafia folks who had been checked out by some rookie cops wanting to make a statement... except our apartment isn't nice like a mafia family's apartment, so that was just stupid)
8 Carry-on bags/personal items -- most likely crammed with nothing that we will actually need/use
5 Bags to be checked
2 Sweaty, sunburned kids + 1 sweet teenager who just came back from the park
1 Sweaty and already worn out mom

In about an hour we are getting picked up by The Dad and starting our journey towards JFK, until then we are going to find our Zen place by reading Harry Potter.  I will be updating when I can. Cheerio!

Again, With the Chickens

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

[Missing my automatic thousand words.]

My phone (i.e. the means by which I get the pictures for this blog) is hooked up to the computer, as my resident teenager attempts to trouble-shoot the error message I keep getting when I try to download all of my pictures. Just so it's clear: the disdain that I often feel towards technology is reciprocated. 

And just so it's also clear: yes, I know it's ridiculous to suddenly decide to do big projects (i.e. finally get the billions of pictures off my phone) right before a major trip. I just thought: hey, we don't already have ten thousand things to do -- why don't we get caught in the middle of something really frustrating late at night so we can hate each other, and the rest of the world, tomorrow... 

I usually consider myself more of a word-person than a visual one, yet having this past year stream past me as I was attempting to download the pictures has filled me with something akin to gorilla glue. You apply it and the next minute it's all enormous and has filled every cranny and has adhered and bonded and connected... and stuff.  This is going nowhere.


Look at that. I just saved this post from saccharine introspection on how babies grow, time goes by, and we need to hold it with both hands. And how for all my kvetching about technology, having such easy and constant means to have pictures is a great gift... Because I just emembered that today my spawn clucked and chuckled happily as they looked at some pictures that I downloaded straight to my laptop from my email. Our friend o' the chickens thoughtfully sent along photos to show us how our darlings are doing (so yes, that is essentially a stolen photo -- fingers crossed litigation doesn't ensue...). A couple of days ago she sent an email and mentioned that one of the chicks turned out to be a rooster. Both kids immediately agreed on which one it had to be. Today they kept saying things like, "I knew he'd be a rooster -- you could just tell by his mannerisms." And: "When you spend some time with them, you just know." My kids clicked through the photos with pride, and perhaps just a tinge of longing for the old days (read: about two months ago). 

They were just these babies. Can you believe how strong and glossy and grown up they are? Babies grow, time goes by, and we need to hold it with both hands... 

Three Fish

Monday, May 13, 2013


I became a grandparent (again) on Saturday, just in time for Mother's Day. At a street fair The Girl saved her tickets and chattered happily through every activity as she waited for the moment when she would win her feeder goldfish at a booth that was giving them away as prizes. She was confident that she would win when her moment came. The Dad said that she could try at the very end. I was manning a different booth the entire time, so knew about the plan and the excitement... and knew what had happened when I looked down the street and saw her standing there with flaming red blotches all across her face and neck, and streaming, swollen eyes. I quickly asked somebody to cover for me and I went to her. She kept saying, "It's okay. It's okay," and she was doing everything she could, and gulping as much air as possible, to get herself calm. 

That night we went to an apartment of some friends, and there on their table was a bowl with three prize-fish and a note propped in front of it with The Girl's name on it. I whispered to the teenage girl who had fairly won them -- and carried them home across the park in the torrential downpour -- whether she really wanted to do this.  She said so sweetly, "Of course. The fun part for me was winning. We know how badly she wanted one." That entire family -- two parents and three teenagers just stood there beaming -- they seemed every bit as thrilled with the situation as The Girl was. She did her best at keeping the water level even as we drove home. She is a very attentive little mama. Even creating a backdrop to their bowl in an attempt to beautify their lives. She knows that as feeder fish in a bowl, their lifespans will undoubtedly be short (we were told by the pet store NOT to put them in the tank with our other fish, as apparently they wreak havoc with ammonia levels). She said that she understood that we are just doing the best we can with what we have, but at least they get to be loved, and won't be eaten by a snake. 

Motherhood. Sometimes it is hard -- with many days that simply end with that particular sum-up: today wasn't great, but at least nobody was eaten by a snake (though some particular shining days I think: I wish I had been eaten whole... it would have been a lot tidier than the constant little nibbles and consistent hacking away with blunt tools...). 

This Sunday as I was reflecting on things... on being a mother, on my own mother... I thought about how much better we understand our mothers as we get older. I'm not convinced that this understanding can only come by becoming a mom; I think it comes when we become old enough to feel mortal, and/or if we've ever loved and sacrificed for somebody who will never know of our love and sacrifice, and/or when we find ourselves in an action story and everything seems futile, yet we continue to move forward, and lo and behold -- against all odds something awesome works out. It comes when we discover something shining and our first thought is to share it. These are all things that come from bringing a new life, but also things that can come by being open to life. 

I do not know all of the sacrifices that my mother made for me. I don't know what memories she has of me that to her feel eternal, and to me are forgotten or inconsequential. I don't know how expansive her hopes for me are, or how devastated she would be if I was hurt. As adult daughters or sons I wonder if our parents' love for us almost becomes a part of the wallpaper -- it's always been there -- the pattern has lost its identity. I do know these things: 

* I am happy with who I am, and I know that I'm largely this, one way or another, because of my mom.
* I love that my mom can laugh at almost anything -- and always can laugh at herself. I realize that I took this for granted -- I thought that anybody could do this, and it has come as a blow to me that not everybody can/chooses to. 
* I like that she makes us all cards, and puts together fun packages, and treats the whole process with as much dedication, concern, and thought as any CEO of a Fortune-500 company has ever treated her job. 
* I respect that she has high standards for how she conducts her life, but is an acute apologist for every other human being. 
* To the best of my knowledge, she has never lied to me; if she told me something misleading she always followed-up and explained, or apologized. She is extremely transparent, wears her heart on her sleeve, and hasn't spent a lot of time developing a social-filter. This was teeth-clenching-embarrassing as a teenager, but as an adult, I cherish such authenticity. 
* Had I won a fish at a fair (or been given a won-fair-fish), she would have let me keep it. We might have had to put it in the bright yellow, ridged, thick-plastic cup we got for free once out of a dog-food bag, and fed it crumbs from our generic toaster waffles, but she would have let me keep it. And maybe every animal-rights activist/naturalist would say that would have been wrong. And maybe it is wrong... But we would have had a silly time naming it, and observing its personality, and been genuinely sad and respectful at its passing. I know this because we gave nourishment to fallen baby birds with droppers, bottle-fed an abandoned newly born kitten whose eyes were still sealed shut, and watched tadpoles rescued from a polluted pond (by our estimation) turn into frogs in a dish-washing bin. The Sister grew up with three ducks in her backyard that our mother saved from being slaughtered. 

All of which is to say -- The Girl's schooling today was basically watching her three fish, designing the backdrop of the bowl, assisting The Sister change the water (something you're supposed to do every couple of days with goldfish), etc. Her highpoint was waking up and not seeing any floaters; her lowpoint was noticing that Silver looked peaky. I think our curriculum is hovering on the brink of the hard parts of the life-cycle... 

Infinite Water

Friday, May 10, 2013


We are T-5 days. It's a mad scramble to get things done before we leave on our grande-finale trip next Thursday. As the more "formal" (cough, cough) part of the school year winds up (winds down?) I'm assessing and wondering what it is that I most hope that the kiddos will take from this year. There are a lot of answers, and I'm sure that I'll be exploring them in the last six weeks of this experiment... But for now I'll mention what has surfaced post-birthday season (read: post pizza, cake, ice cream, etc.) -- I hope my kids are learning proper care of their bodies by mostly/usually eating and drinking well. 

I will be the first to admit that the scheme has been filled with treats. Every outing, bribe, trip, etc. has food as a key ingredient. What I'm counting on, is that they realize that treats are for special occasions (this year has just had a lot of those...), not for every-day-consumption. 

Specifically, one area where I felt we are falling short is the amount of water we take in every day. In an effort to get the kids familiar with what eight glasses of water feels like, we have been making daily tear-away flyers like the ones we see all over this city ("guitar lessons!" "dog walking!" "French tutoring!"). While they find a strange satisfaction in tearing off the tabs, we have yet to have a denuded flyer come the end of the day. 

I wonder stupid things sometimes -- things that can't be answered... like, statistically speaking, would learning the habit of drinking a healthful quantity of water lead to a higher quality of life than learning the chemical structure of H20 -- in the long run?  I'm not sure how you could set up a study -- you would have to gather a group that never learned anything regarding the periodic table of elements... and then whittle off those that drink eight glasses of water a day (the amount necessary to rid the body of waste efficiently), and then see if they are happier than another group who did learn the chemical make-up of water, but are not drinking enough of it... Again: I wonder stupid things. And all that wondering often spins around the same theme: how to use time/resources most efficiently, for not only are our mortal lives finite, but within that the different stages/opportunities in our lives are finite.